People at work. People at school. People at home. Life is all about dealing with people, understanding them and being understood. It would be a simple one too if they would just listen to us! Managing people is a tough task mostly because our words seldom compliment our thoughts. Only if we could read each others’ minds….everyone would have been at war with everyone! 😛
When you know someone, it is relatively easy to catch their lies and understand them beyond their words. But what about those we don’t know so well? Below are a few observations you can make a note of while in a conversation with someone you want to decipher the inner workings of!
Your face is the most expressive part and the most easiest to read. The major emotions like a laugh or rivers of tears could easily be faked. To recognize a lie, it is the small things that are needed to be caught.
Crinkles: At the corners of eyes, if crinkles are missing, so is the authenticity of the smile. A fake smile is just a changed curvature of the lips but how genuine is that is answered by how far up till your eyes it goes.
Eyebrows: The eyebrows give away way to much! They are one of the first reactions and hence difficult to control. Raised eyebrows are a negative sign of emotions like contempt or discomfort.
Tilt: If you have ever noticed, a puppy dog face has a tilt. A tilt draws sympathy and adoration in the form “Awww, so cute!”
Persistent Eye Contact: There can be two extremely opposite causes for this. The positive might be genuine interest and likability whereas the negative can be for the purposes of intimidation or contempt like “I know the truth, liar!”
Avoiding eye contact: Avoiding eye contact is a call of conscience. It means you have something to feel guilty about, probably a lie or just an unethical act.
Voice Modulation: Your voice tends to change according to situations. While flirting females tend to rise theirs by a few notes and males seem to do just the opposite!
Posture takes up a major chunk of your personality. A slouched posture with drooping shoulders says you are under confident, nervous and unwilling. Watch your posture before you go in for an interview. A scared person shrinks, protecting himself. Open postures build an aura of leadership, confidence and control. It radiates power and also attracts people towards you. Positivity always attracts people. Leaning while in a conversation expresses the same feelings as your inclination, repulsive for away and attractive for towards.
Hands prove to be a very powerful tool for a public speaker. For a teacher teaching, her hands seem to move along with her words. Movement of hands shows how involved the person is in his speech.
Crossed Arms : Crossed arms are a sign of defence, like protecting ourselves. It can also show that you don’t want to give out information and are a tightly sealed book written in invisible ink!
Tapping fingernails: Tapping fingernails on table or any flat surface shows your restlessness. For example waiting for a text from your boyfriend while in a fight.
Touching your nose or ears: Touching your face repeatedly and making it look like you’re scratching, wiping off sweat or tucking your hair behind your ear repeatedly indicates your vulnerability or that you’re lying, that is, if you are not suffering from excess-sweat-syndrome or itch-itch-disease!
Crossed Legs: A closed book, can be compared with crossed arms.
Shaking Legs: Shaking legs while sitting is a sign of anxiety. Whatever interview session or meeting you are having, you just want it to be over desperately!
Shifting weight: Shifting weight from one leg to another redirects to emotionally unsettled mind. Unless you have been a victim of standing for a long time, in which case it is just a comforting movement, it shows you’re upset about something.
Feet: Tapping feet is an arrogant method of conveying “Hurry up! Stop wasting my time!”.
Body language is crucial & understanding the basics would surely help you look & feel more confident. Also convey the right vibes through your personality.